In living one's acquired learning, one either replicates their parent's experience or creates an experience exactly opposite to that.
One exists and manages his/her existence inside of the acquired knowledge.One becomes finite from the infinite, like a frog in the well.
All this acquired learning forms one's belief system.
One's belief system constitutes a very minuscule portion of universal knowledge.It limits and restricts one and forms a veil.
The root of every pattern , in this birth, is set inside the mothers' womb.The Child learns its defense mechanism from the conversations in the family, educational systems and the society as a whole.
Every time one acts out of pattern , one is holding on. When one decides to drop the pattern, what gets dropped is the ego and one is headed towards love.
One gets closer to one's original self which is all love and pure light.
When one realises, one is ready to drop patterns of their behaviour which does not serve any more.
Everything is by design.
Each one is here to complete ones' karma , learn their life lessons and live their purpose.
Every action /reaction is towards completion of ones' karma..provided one realises this.